Proverbs 12:4
New International Version 1984 (NIV1984)
4 A wife of noble character is her husband’s crown,
but a disgraceful wife is like decay in his bones.
And it really got me thinking...
Oftentimes, I try to bless my husband Ross by DOING something. I know. I'll cook him his favorite meal. I'll write him a sweet note. I'll scrub the kitchen floor. I'll thank him for going to work to provide for our family. I'll join him in an act of service. I'll praise him in front of others. I'll... I'll...I'll...
ALL of these things are great! They need to be done. They do encourage my husband. But did you notice that Proverbs 12:4 doesn't say that the wife who is busy doing things is her husband's crown. It doesn't say the wife that has her list of to-do's in order is her husband's crown. No, it's the wife of noble character.
Perhaps, it would be best for me to stop DOING things for Ross, and rather start BEING things for Ross. Being faithful. Being kind. Being thoughtful and considerate. Being trustworthy. Being slow to anger. Being forgiving. Being hopeful.
And the cool part is, if we choose to be more concerned with our character (hearts that are loving towards God and others)- we are going to bear sweet fruit (saying and doing kind things) and our husbands will be proud to call us their wives.
In fact, we will be a precious crown that they will proudly display on their heads : )
That is a beautiful reflection. It reminds me of the discussion in James regarding faith and works. If we have faith, then we are filled with the desire to do works and that our faith is completed by the works. Without faith, our works are nothing. Without works, our faith is dead. Without the character to support the actions, the actions may lack the power to glorify God and strengthen our husbands. Thank you for sharing your thoughts; it always stirs the spirit. :)
ReplyDeleteI loved your thoughts! Thanks for sharing. I find myself stuck in the DOING regarding so many aspects of life. However, lately God and I have been dialoguing about the BEING! It was good to hear your thoughts behind it. They were encouraging.
ReplyDeleteThanks for your encouragement, ladies! It is my desire to encourage you as the LORD reveals Himself and His will to me : )
ReplyDeleteYour posts are so encouraging, Dru-Lynn. In recent months and years I have become discouraged with trying to do all the things a "good Christian wife" should do, and my marriage has suffered for it. I'm trying to go a different direction and still be biblical. Your posts have given me some good perspective and hopefully some seeds for change. Thanks for being a blessing!
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