Friday, February 11, 2011

Exceeding Our Expectations

On Wednesday evening, several ladies stopped by our I Heart My Husband event. We had a great time chatting about our husbands and making valentine's cards for them.

One of my favorite questions that was asked was...
"In what way has being married to your husband EXCEEDED your expectations??"

Women generally come into marriage with a long list of things they expect their new husband to do- and when he doesn't do those things, disappointment and tears generally follow. In my case, I didn't even realize I had some expectations, until Ross didn't meet them. I think this is why most couples have a difficult 1st year. It's 12 whole months of figuring out what we thought would happen vs. what is really happening...

So I thought this question would produce good conversation. And it did : )

One woman shared that after 20 years of marriage, her husband still adored her. She hadn't expected that!

Here's my answer, which I did not share in such detail, because both my mom and mother-in-law were listening intently, and I couldn't do it with a straight face : )

When Ross and I first got married, we went through the normal period of trying to figure out the whole lovemaking thing. I hadn't expected it would take so long to figure out. But after 3+ years of practicing, of awkward conversations, of laughing and crying together, I can now say that my husband knows me well. He finds pleasure in pleasing me and does it selflessly. I feel safe and beautiful in his arms. I understand that God made intimacy as a lovely gift. My husband has exceeded my expectations. I never knew lovemaking could be so beautiful, comforting and fun!

So.... how has your husband exceeded your expectations? I'd really like to hear your answers!
Please leave a comment : )

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